I don’t know how to lead into this blog eloquently so I’m just going to dive in. Everyone who offers you advice that you don’t like is not hating or trying to hold you back. Maybe just maybe these people are keeping it a buck and trying to help you. I am starting to see a disturbing trend with people not being able to take honesty without accusing you of not being supportive, being a hater and willing to cut you out of their life.

I’ve hurt my fair share of feelings because I refuse to lie, I’m brutally honest. If you ask me about your relationship, music, career decisions, etc. be prepared to get an answer you might not like. If your partner is trash and you’re in a dead-end relationship, I’ll tell you about it. Want a music career and you trash, be prepared to get some Simon Cowell type critiques. This isn’t hate it’s called honesty and unfortunately, we live in a world where lying to people has become acceptable. We have gone far beyond being supportive and now we find ourselves wondering what is wrong with insert whatever generation you want of people younger than you.

I’ve seen young professionals crash and burn due to their inability to take advice or critique and I blame us. Supervisors, parents, friends, etc., it’s our fear of offending and hurting their feelings that we just sugarcoat or flat out lie about their performances or who they are (it’s a lot of trash people out there). We deny our expectations, feelings, goals and needs all for the purpose of making people feel comfortable. Why should I deny my happiness or sanity to preserve someone else’s? That’s absolutely absurd and makes zero sense.

See here’s the problem with not being honest and telling people what they need to hear instead of what they want to hear. We don’t solve anything, we as people don’t evolve and improve. This is why my marriage is as great as it is. We call each other out on our bullshit. Yes, do we get in our feelings at the moment, of course we are humans with feelings but once we take the time needed to digest it, we work on a solution. We improve we get better. It’s just that simple.

Now for those overly sensitive individuals who can’t take the truth. That’s your issue not mine. By failing to be open to criticism and honest critique you will never be better than who you are right now. Your music will remain trash, you’ll stay stuck in a bad relationship or you’ll never reach your career goals. It’s just that simple, everyone is not out to get you. If someone takes the time to give you the gift of honesty, accept it. Get out of your own way, learning that you are not as great as you think you are or that you have done something wrong does sting a little bit. I know that, I have had my feelings hurt but guess what I thanked everyone that was brave enough to be honest with me.

So, for the last time. I’m not hating, I’m just being honest.